Winning back your ex-boyfriend can be a daunting task. You need to have sufficient courage, patience, time and understanding to endure the pressures associated with saving a relationship. It’s even more difficult if your ex already has another girl to keep his attention and heart beating fast.  If your heart still tells you to get him back despite the present state of affairs, it can still happen.  It’s just going to take some time and effort and the following tips can help you along the way.

Assess.  One sure thing about any breakup is that there is always a reason behind it.  The wisest thing that you can do is to take the time to really look at your relationship and what happened.  Where did it go wrong and what was your part in that?  Be smart enough to learn from your mistakes and grow as a person.

Look and feel glamorous! Look your best. Whether we accept it or not, men are very visual creatures. They like girls who are attractive and appealing. Those who look good are a step higher than those who do not. This is the reality and we must just accept it. For most men, the outward beauty of a lady is just as important as the inner beauty. You need to look good at all times, make him crave to show you off on his arm again, to claim you as his.

The power of optimism!  Showing and maintaining a positive attitude is important, Who wants to be around a spiteful, bitter, jaded person after a breakup?  You hear nothing but complaints and that gets old fast.  Likewise, little is more unattractive than a person wallowing in self-pity. If you are depressed, seek medical help for some medication if you can’t snap out of it after a reasonable amount of time. If you don’t believe you can get your ex back there is no chance you will.  While it is impossible to fail in a task if you fail to try it, it’s also impossible to be successful.  You have to actually make the effort. So be positive and enthusiastic because these qualities can move mountains.

Maintain your self-esteem.  While you really want to get your ex back in your life, becoming a stalker or calling or texting him every hour won’t help.  In fact it’s very likely to seal the separation.  Guys like a challenge, they always have, so don’t be too vocal or obvious with regards to your intention to get him back.  Don’t appear needy either.  You must be your own person and remember that there are more subtle ways to let him know your intent.

Limit the alcohol.  If your mind is clouded with hatred and depression, or even loneliness, you should never call your ex when under the influence of alcohol. You never know what might come out of your mouth and words spoken in haste or while under the influence can come back to haunt you in a big way.  They can even totally derail your attempts to reconcile.  So, no drunk dialing.

Whatever technique or techniques you use, if your intention is to get your ex-boyfriend back you can make it happen.  It’s just going to take some time and effort, but if it’s really something you want, if it’s really something worth fighting for – put on your boxing gloves and get to work!

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